“Falling in love is ultimately a rational, conscious act. It’s a willful decision to let down one’s last remaining emotional barriers and become wholly vulnerable to another human being. But even though this final decision to become vulnerable is a rational one, it is almost always based upon subconscious motives (of which the person falling in love is hardly aware). As financier J.P. Morgan reportedly once quipped, ‘Every man has two reasons for doing or not doing a thing: One that sounds good, and a real one.'”
-Love Tactics; Thomas W. McKnight, Robert H. Philips
“Does it ever occur to women that maybe a guy might like to have a plan, you know, because he’s nervous? He’s not sure that he could just walk up to you and you’d respond if he said ‘I like you.’ ‘I like you.’ ‘I like you!'”
Commitment is a word that is even hard for some, like myself as of late, to say; let alone do. There comes a time when you want to commit to someone, but then you remember the last time you committed to a relationship and how it turned out and you give up. Or, you finally open up to the idea of commitment, only to realize that you have no idea how to do it. How does this happen? How do I go from a few casual dates to suddenly being in a relationship?
If it truly is a rational, conscious act, I’m not sure I recall ever receiving the memo from my brain saying, “By the way, you have an appointment at 3:30 PM with commitment.” How does it happen? At what point do both people look at one another and make the choice to jump in feet first? Is it one person who decides to jump and prays that the other person will jump with them?
I suppose once you open yourself up to the possibility of being committed, not fear commitment, things just work. Here’s to figuring out life and love! *Cheers*